Hi again everyone! So, today I have a more deep chat focused post. I haven’t done a Coffee Chats post in what feels like ages. Since my audience has grown quite a lot since my last Coffee Chats post, I thought I’d explain the idea of it real quick. So, Coffee Chats is essentially a blog post series here on my blog. The posts always have a deep chat subject. I’ve done one about beauty, one about not being good enough etc. The idea of the blog post is that I write how I feel and think about the subject and then the comment section is very open for what’s on my lovely readers’ mind. A very important part is the coffee. The idea is that the blog posts and comments would be something we’d discuss over a cup of coffee – a chilled, calm and intriguing talk.
For today I thought we’d talk about self pressure. I know a lot of people are starting school in the following weeks (including myself!!) and the topic seemed very fitting. Personally, I’ve learned a lot about self pressure over the last couple of years. If you don’t know, I got stress (not the feeling, the “diagnose” although that word makes me sound like I was incredibly ill) in my first year of highschool (great start, right? I hope you detect my sarcasm). I’d essentially put WAY too much pressure on myself. I was constantly convincing myself that I should be 105% full of energy every single minute of the day, make my homework A++++++++ worthy and have LOADS of energy and time for making new friends, blogging, working out etc. as well. Yes, this is obviously unmanageable for anyone without having some sort of reaction.
This got me thinking – Why did I do all of the above to myself? Why was I convinced that this would benefit me? Why didn’t I step back and calm down? Well, I’m not sure I have all of the answers to my questions, however, I do know that I’ll never do this to myself again. I think self pressure is important in order for personal development. It’s what makes us learn, change and become. But like many other things in life it’s about finding a suitable balance.
In terms of school, I care very much about how I do in school. However, it’s not because I want to make every aspect of my life perfect. No, I care about school simply because I absolutely LOVE learning. I know many people (at some points including myself) whom put a lot of pressure on themselves when it comes to school. From what I’ve learned over the last few years I have to say…. Firstly, your grades don’t equal your worth. If you do an awful assignment, it doesn’t mean your awful. This may sound extremely obvious, however, I know that everyone feels better about themselves when there’s an A on the assignment and not a D. I’m not going to judge because I feel like this too. However, we mustn’t let grades affect us too much.
Secondly, remember to prioritise yourself and your health first, school, making friends, working out and parties come second. Again this seems obviously though so many people still don’t prioritise in that order. I’m not here to blame, I’m here to remind and help. It can be scary sometimes to put your friends on hold and prioritise a month of quite nights reading books, binging Netflix and having baths. However, if your friends can’t understand that you need nights like those, then perhaps they weren’t the right friends for you.
Thirdly, when it comes to school I’ve promised myself that I am not expecting to do every single bit of homework og make A+ assignments day in and day out. No, if I have a day where my energy level is at 60% I’ll go through the day with that 60% of energy and not trying to force myself to have a 100%. It truly is like charging your phone. If it has only got 30% you can’t expect it to last like there was a 100% on it, you’ve got to put it in the charger and wait for it to be ready – meaning, you’ve got to recharge as well (although please don’t start to charge yourself with an actual charger lol – it was only a metaphor)
I think we’ll wrap it up there. Please, please, PLEASE make sure to write whatever you feel like in the comments section (although if it’s too mean it’s not for the public to see – just saying). Let me know what your thoughts and experiences are on self pressure. Also, I hope you all have a lovely week and a great start at school, uni, collage, work or what ever you’re doing after the summer holiday.
Lots of love from